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Be honest, ALWAYS. Set standards and live up to them. Treat folks with equal consideration. Put your effort and energy into running the team. Make sure you message your teammates. Create and maintain your identity. Set goals.
These are just a few ideas.
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@kneilca2 wrote this in another forum:
"Respect them. Take an interest in them. Recognize what they do and let them know. I think respect comes from trust. I think the progression is Understanding -->Trust -->Respect. Being a team captain is like any other management position. If you are a manager, think of what has worked best for you in the past. If you aren't, you've probably had a few managers you've really liked and a few you didn't. What made them either good or bad?
Consistency, transparency and honesty build trust. Without it, there can be no respect."
-Yep... All of that too.
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@blitzkov: What prompted the question?
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@jclark...
His team hates him, I would gather.
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@Mr.M: Let's hear from blitzkov before making any assumptions.
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O come on, Jclark... Was a joke... Hence, difficult to realize these things on a forum.
Was only kidding, Blitzkov.
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It could be your age
Not that your age is bad, but some people may have a problem with a teenaged captain. If that's the case, then you have to work doubly hard to earn their respect. It's not fair, but unfortunately, that's life. I admire that you've taken on so much on this site. You have a great team and you're a moderator on a few forums. I would say that you are on your way to earning respect in this chess community. Just hang in there and do your best.
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Blitz, you are 14 years old and have a rating over 1800?
I hate you
(Just kidding)
That deserves respect by itself
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johnclark
i just wanted to see what all you have to say
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Yeah, CLARK! Smoke on dat, son!
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@Mr. Marmalade:
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shamusb
10-Aug-12, 23:45
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What kneilca said.
Plus, keep messages short and simple. Online communication works best when it's straightforward and when you leave no room for miscommunication. Whenever you say anything, think it over first, maybe write it down somewhere else, then review it to see if it means what it's meant to mean. If it's overcomplicated, take a few words out. Be upfront with people and say what you think.
Remember that it's your team. You're entitled to have opinions and to give the team direction. I haven't been a captain but I'm guessing you'll get all sorts in a team - some people will support you, some will be a pain, some will be neutral, and some just want to be left alone to play chess. You have to deal with all sorts.
Take your time in setting up challenges. Players might not notice how much time effort you put into getting it right, but they'll notice if you set them up with an opponent that hammers them!
Respect will come, in time.
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pennsylvaniadan
11-Aug-12, 02:27
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The best advice I can give is to just do what your instincts tell you is the right thing to do. Just like in playing Chess, learn from your mistakes and correct them. There's a small percentage of people that don't respect anyone. It's a given and there isn't much you can do about them. Don't let these people bother you. You can't please everyone so just please yourself (line from an old Rickey Nelson song "Garden Party"). A 14 yearold with you Chess rating-----you have my respect----lol
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I was a captain for a long time
One thing is remember that life comes first and chess second. Respect should be natural for most. IF they just cant respect you kick them off the team. Just remember this is entertainment for most people so you are not a boss or anything. Talk to people like you want to be talked to and I think you will get respect.
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@blitzkov: What do you think of the replies so far? What you expected?
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johnclark
i appreciate all of the replies, and learned a lot!
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as many of you know I don't always get on paper what's in my mind, I often time let my wife read my post before I send them, she knows nothing about chess. On the subject of respect, it is often more about perception. You often here respect is earned I don't believe that, treating your fellow man like you would like to be treated yourself is key, in my humble opinion.
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@kightgator: I agree!
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NOTICE
We have been warned about language and behaviour towards other members on the club..
Our 1st warning..so again please be careful what you say>
Big brother is watching!
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The overall tone of this club is healthy and in good spirit... Let them watch.
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Sorry I caused you to get a warning, Bearz...
It all came down to the cursing and inflammatory language as everything else was left intact.
'Cuz it's true.
This was a great victory.
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bears1
08-Sep-12, 14:05
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Deleted by bears1 on 29-Mar-13, 23:38.
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bearz2
Got it dont worry.
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Well that want well..NOT...Not a peep!Don't care really..
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Damn! This all went down in September and I'm just now noticing it. That sucks!
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Don't think you were the only one..oh well..we plod on..
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